Diary of a Gardener Gardens are Meant to Be Experienced
As gardeners, we are typically mindful of our impact on the earth. What we do in our gardens not only affects our immediate surroundings but also has broader environmental implications. Here in Florida, where 70% of the population lives along the coastline, the choices we make in our landscapes will directly impact the Atlantic Ocean and the Gulf of Mexico. Urban sprawl is also rapidly consuming native habitats, leading to the loss of native plants, wildlife, and pollinators. Every time we hear of another species or plant being added to the endangered list, it feels like a gut punch. We feel a deep responsibility to do everything we can to protect our environment and avoid contributing to problems that often feel overwhelming and out of reach.
This sense of responsibility is commendable but can also be exhausting. As we avoid pesticides, conserve water, plant native species, and reduce lawn space, we sometimes become so focused on "doing the right thing" that we forget to appreciate the beauty around us. In our quest for perfection, we can overextend ourselves, trying to address every issue perfectly. But the truth is, no garden will ever be perfect. Pests will always find a way to invade just when you've turned away with the Neem Oil. Squirrels will dig in your mulch, kicking it all over the sidewalk. Mother Nature will throw curveballs—too much rain, not enough, heat, humidity—the list goes on. It’s enough to make even the most seasoned gardener feel frustrated and burned out.
For me, the joy of being outside with my plants outweighs the challenges, but there are times when I need a break. And that's okay.
What I want to say is this: give yourself permission to step away sometimes. A garden isn’t a destination of perfection—that’s what Disney World is for. Your garden is meant to be experienced, to be lived in. When it feels like too much, take a breather. Sit in your garden, watch the birds, admire the butterflies, and listen to the bees. Just be. The wildlife doesn’t care that your garden isn’t perfect—they’re simply grateful for the food and shelter you’ve provided. And isn’t that the whole point of gardening? Step back and let yourself enjoy the beauty that your efforts have created.
